Prayers Needed For A Missing Child

The cousin of one of my friends, Sherri, is missing. She's only 10 years old, and she vanished from a tiny town in Washington state. My heart hurts for this little girl and the people who love her. Please click on this link for the full story and a photo of Lindsey.

For those of you who believe in prayer, please pray for Lindsey's safe return, and pray that she and her family have the strength necessary to get them through this tragic time.

Petunia and OT: The Beginning

A few months ago it became pretty clear to me that Petunia has some sensory integration issues. She's always been very clingy to me and very wary of strangers, but that alone would not necessarily be a major cause of concern. But then, one at a time, other issues began to occur. Petunia loved to swing, and then she was terrified of it. She was fine with me shampooing and rinsing her hair, and then she acted as if I were trying to kill her. She began to have more problems with the intense need of keeping her personal space from being invaded, messy hands and clothes, bright light, loud noises, certain foods, and a newly developed fear of heights. There are a few others, but those are the main issues, and I'm being told that they may be contributing to her poor sleep habits. (Of course, they may have nothing to do with her sleep habits and I'm in for a lifetime of sleep deprivation.)

It took a couple of tries to find the right occupational therapist -- Mindee -- but we're now on the journey to conquering Petunia's issues. One of the great things about Mindee working with Petunia's is that she's not just an OT, but she's the mom of a 3-year old girl who has sensory issues as well. Of course I don't mean that it's great that her daughter is experiencing what Petunia is, but it's great in the sense that Mindee can also see things from my perspective. Mindee says Petunia reminds her very much of her daughter, especially in the attitude department. That definitely makes me feel better.

My sweet and spicy girl is expressing both sides of herself during her sessions, but Mindee simply goes with the flow. She won Petunia over immediately. For those of you who have met Petunia in person, you know that she will never go to a stranger within a mere 5-10 minutes of meeting them. Ever! Not only did she go to Mindee right away, but she allowed her to hold her hand, pick her up, take her shoes off and put them back on, and constantly touch her hands and arms. I cannot begin to tell you how surprised I was to watch this all unfold. The person (excluding some family members and Petunia's Yuyu) that has come the closest to immediate acceptance has been Daphne or, as Petunia calls her, Dackney.

With the exception of holding her fork/spoon and crayons properly, Petunia is on track or ahead developmentally. Mindee was very happy about her verbal communication skills, even though she has had to hear, "But I don't want to do that. I not yike that. No, I not do it!" non-stop for the first 15-20 minutes of each session so far. Mindee told me that the problems we're dealing with are not really severe. She put most of them in the mild to moderate range. She said they're only bad enough that I'll truly be able to see great progress being done from week to week. I guess what she said is true, because Petunia stayed on the platform swing for about 2-3 minutes without crying, and she stood on the loft without immediately dropping to sit or crawl to the slide during the most recent session. (Yeah, she loves to slide. She's just afraid to stand that high off the ground.)

I was prepared for Petunia to get upset, cry, yell, and completely freak out. I really was. But what I hadn't counted on was how I would feel when I couldn't comfort her until the OT said it was okay. I know she's being pushed very gently into doing things she's afraid of, and I know Mindee is not going to allow her to be upset for very long before I get to hold her for a minute, but it's still hard knowing I'm not in control of the situation and I'm not able to comfort my daughter right away. It's been fabulous to see Petunia willing to go back for more "work" after a quick hug and kiss from me, though. Really, that's all it's taken so far. (Okay, let me clarify... I know that I could scoop Petunia up anytime, and I could stop the sessions altogether, but I'm having to stay quiet and remain in the background so she can learn to deal with her fears.) It's really alright, but I'm just saying that I wasn't prepared to have my heart ripped out of my chest because I couldn't keep my little girl from experiencing things that obviously made her uncomfortable, afraid, and upset. I'm sure I'll progress quickly, too.

I'm so grateful that I was open to acknowledging that my child was struggling in certain areas, and that I didn't talk myself into believing that it's just a phase or that she'd outgrow it all. I could have so easily buried my head in the sand and refused to admit she needed help. I'm grateful that the problems we're experiencing are so minor when compared with those of some other families. I'm grateful for my family and friends, particularly Daphne and Kelli, who are familiar with sensory integration issues due to their professions, for listening to my concerns and offering wonderful advice and support. I'm grateful for Petunia's pediatrician for taking my concerns seriously and spending a lot of time answering my questions. I'm grateful for Petunia's dayschool, because the director and teachers are willing to do whatever needs to be done to ensure Petunia's progress is not hindered in any way during her time there. And finally, I'm grateful for Mindee, because I can't imagine someone more perfect to help my daughter. How blessed are Petunia and I?

We're going to sessions weekly right now. It'll all depend on how quickly Petunia progresses as to how long we'll work on the issues. I can't wait for the day to see Petunia be a little more carefree and less guarded about everything. Watch out, world!

Petunia loves playing with her Little People Noah's Ark and it's "aminals." She pairs them up and/or stands them in straight or curved lines. She holds conversations with them, feeds them regularly, and carries them around in her purses. I love watching her pretend play.

I wish this shot were a little more clear. Petunia is in her bikini, singing Wheels on the Bus to one of her babies. See her hands holding the imaginary steering wheel?

Time To Play Catch-Up

Where does the time go? I've been so busy and so tired (remember, Petunia doesn't sleep) that I've been feeling like a zombie most days. I'm so behind on posting, reading other blogs, and responding to emails. Sorry, my friends, but I'll get to them all -- promise! We did have a full night's sleep Thursday night, and as glorious as that was, it still wasn't nearly enough. Anyway, I've got lots of catching-up to do, so I'm going to jump right in.

Actually, no. I'm first going to wish all the dads out there, especially my dad, a Happy Father's Day! I'm blessed beyond measure when it comes to my dad, and I'm forever thankful to have him. Petunia and I wish we could have been with you today, Dad/Papa, but we were there in spirit. We love you!

Now I'll jump right in...

We really enjoyed having my parents and Hannah here for a week. Not only was Petunia spoiled while they were here, but I was, too. I had help with some of the housework and cooking, and they really helped me get some yard work done. They got things down from the attic for me, and put other things up. (That's a really difficult thing to do by yourself.) I certainly didn't expect you to spend your time here working, but I hope you all know how appreciative I am for all your help. We love you and miss you tons! (Not a day has gone by without Petunia telling me she wants to go to your house. The phone conversations just aren't enough for her anymore. So pitiful!)

Last weekend we had the opportunity to visit with some friends, Chandra, Cliff, and Boo, Daphne and Ben, and Kelli and Aiden. They all came to Nashville for a little blogger friend get-together, and we had the best time! We had met everyone in real life except Kelli and Aiden, so I was super excited for the chance to meet them. (It's easy to wonder if you'll like your blogger friends before you meet them in person, because all you know of them is what they write. No worries, though. Kelli is wonderful, I liked her immediately, and I'm sure we'll be friends always, which is how I feel about the others.) Chandra, Cliff, and Boo came Saturday morning and hung out with us since it was too early to check into their hotel. We loved spending that time with them.

I wanted to fix dinner for my out-of-town friends Saturday night, and they were gracious enough to come to our house. Everyone was just so easy to get along with, and the kids are too adorable for words. On top of it all, the kids played so well together. They all have such different personalities, but it was fantastic to watch them play. Boo is a little charmer, a little reserved at first, quite the dancer, and full of smiles. Ben is high-energy, all boy, has a grin to die for, and is a total babe magnet. Aiden is the youngest of the group, but he hung right in there with the older kids. He looks cute in pictures, but they do not do him justice! He's such a handsome little man who likes to explore and stay busy. He has a smile for everyone, but he likes to be sure his mom is nearby. I did not do a good job when it came to taking pictures, but my friends have some great pictures on their blogs, so hop on over and check them out if you haven't done so already.

I've said it before, but I have met some fabulous friends online because of the adoption connection. I often feel like the most fortunate girl in the world. The friendships, for example, with Chandra, Cliff, Daphne, and Kelli, are real ones, and I'd hang out with them anytime. And I love, love, love their children! Petunia has been around Daphne several times, so she'll usually go to her within a couple of minutes. I know she remembered Cliff and Chandra, but it still took her a little time before she allowed them to chat with her. Kelli, on the other hand, was not someone she'd met before, so she didn't give her much attention Saturday. It was so funny because Petunia kept asking me, "Who is 'that mama'?" Sunday was better though, and she warmed up a little more. I guess it also helped because Kelli and Aiden were the only ones who were able to come back to our house on Sunday. Kelli and I really got to talk, and the kids were so good that day. I had a great time on Saturday because it was so busy and fun, and I had an equally great time on Sunday because it was laid-back and relaxing. Thanks everyone for being willing to come into town for the weekend. I'm sorry Petunia and I didn't make it to the park to meet the other families... next time though. I'm already looking forward to doing this again! Hopefully some of our other friends will be able to join us next time.

Our next guests will be arriving on July 1st. Nanny, Ebeth, and Emmy are coming for a whole week! Ebeth is so sweet. Her birthday is July 2nd, and she asked her mom for a trip to Nashville instead of a birthday party. This is actually the second time she's passed up a party to come up here. I love my best friend and her sweet daughters! As much as Hubby and Skippy the dog will miss "their girls", I'm sure they'll enjoy an estrogen-less week at home, while getting in some quality nap time. We can't wait to see our friends!

I have several Petunia stories to document, so I'll make an effort to do those this week. My girl is funny!

Petunia spent some time with Jen-Jen and Evan yesterday, and Jen was able to get a few cute pics while Petunia played. Thanks, Jen, for sending me the photos!

The self-appointed brother/sister duo.

In the words of Inspector Clouseau, "What's that you said?"

Her shiny, black hair. Her gorgeous complexion. Her amazing eyes and crazy long eyelashes. Her perfect nose. Her sweet, tiny mouth. I know I'm biased, but I think she's just beautiful!

And there's always a silly face to be made!

I love her profile, too. Oh, my sweet and spicy girl!

I wasn't ready to see her looking so grown-up.

They're either praying or letting Jen know 'enough already!' with the photography.

Photos For A Sunday

Petunia's grandparents and one of her cousins are in town for a visit. We're always so happy to see them and spend time with them. My sweet girl is in heaven! I'm notorious for forgetting to take pictures when things are going on, so I will try to get one or two of everyone before they leave.

I'll write more later, but here are a few pics in the meantime.

The other morning Petunia and I made blueberry muffins. I gave her the bowl to lick the batter and she had to really decide if she wanted to do that or not. (It involved using her finger to scoop up the batter and that's a big deal to her. I have a separate post coming soon about that.)

Finally taking the plunge!

And the first taste!

"I yike it!" No more dipping her finger into the bowl, though. I helped her out by giving her a spoon.

This was from last weekend and I don't remember what she was telling me. Heck, I can't remember what I ate for lunch yesterday, much less one of the gazillion things Petunia told me last weekend.

Maracas and makeup brushes make very good drumsticks. And a little stool? Yep, the perfect drum!

More drumming and singing.

She's so happy Nana is playing the drum with her.

There's no doubt that Hannah is part of our family. She LOVES to read. How she can read with motor-mouth Petunia around is beyond me, though. We love Hannah!

And last but not least... the greatest Papa in the whole world! Petunia has several fetishes, and one of them is a necklace fetish. She decorated Papa and... well, can you say Good Sport?!

A Few Photos By Jen-Jen

Petunia isn't even cooperative for Jen-Jen anymore when it comes to having her picture taken, but I think a few of them are still cute. I don't have it in me to write anything tonight, so I'll just post some shots of my sweet girl and call it a night.

I just love her scrunched-up, laughing face.

Doesn't she look like a girl on a mission?

My sweet girl loves flowers.

These two love each other so much. It's just too sweet to watch them together. Honestly, he's the big brother she doesn't have, and she's the little sister he doesn't have. A perfect match!

A Well Deserved Blog Makeover

So what do you think about the new look? I love it! When I first started this blog, I promised myself that I would do away with a generic look and get a customized blog design one day... IF... and that was a big IF... I kept up with my posting. It's just that I had always hated to write in a journal, so I didn't really hold out much hope that I would keep up with a blog. It seems that I've surprised myself, because I'm soon to reach the 3-year mark of blogging. Not only have these years of writing been enjoyable, but the friendships I've developed and the support I've received have meant more than I know how to express. I'm incredibly happy I started blogging. Having said all that, I felt it was definitely time to reward my efforts by getting a blog design that was just for me.

After much research, I decided to contact Danielle, The Design Girl, and I instantly liked her. She has somehow created the perfect look for this blog. I don't toss out praise lightly, but Danielle is absolutely fabulous at what she does, and she's so very easy to work with. She was extremely prompt in answering my questions, and her emails came across as friendly, knowledgeable, and professional. I honestly felt as if I was working with someone I had known for a while. So if you're in the market for a new blog design and you'd like to work with someone who is terrific, I highly recommend The Design Girl. Danielle, thank you so much for the awesome job you did. It truly is perfect!

I'll post a few new photos of Petunia soon. Have a great weekend!

Petunia's Parisian Pad

I said I wasn't going to post photos of Petunia's "big girl" room until it was totally finished, but I think it's close enough. I still have a couple of things left to do, like buy a small rug, a new hamper, and maybe one or two other things. And I also want to make a new bow keeper. BUT the room is basically finished. Poor little girl, she's been out of her crib for about eight or nine months, and I'm just getting around to fixing up her room. I can't believe it took me that long to decide what to do. Oh, well...

First of all, I need to say how much I appreciate Jen. She kept Petunia all day. There is no way any work could have gotten done had Petunia stayed at home. No way. Jen also tried to take some portraits of my girl, but the child was not in the mood to cooperate. She still got a couple of good shots... like the ones of Petunia and Evan smooching!

Now let me send out a huge thank you to my friend, Lisa, who happens to be Petunia's Aunt Popo. Without her and her fabulous artistic abilities, the room would be just another ho-hum bedroom. Because of Lisa, this room is a masterpiece! Oh, and the only payment she received (not that I'm unwilling to pay her) was a big hug from Petunia. Thanks so much, my friend. You're extremely talented and extremely sweet.

I think I mentioned in an earlier post that I couldn't find the comforter set in a twin size, so I had to alter the comforter and the bed skirt from a full size to a twin. I used the full sheets to make the window treatments, because I was able to find twin sheets for the bed. I also improved an existing lamp that we had. I'm not the most craftsy person on the planet, so I'm praying that nobody sneezes in that room. If that happens, everything may just fall apart. :-)

The best thing of all is that Petunia loves her new room. She was so interested in looking at and touching everything last night. She absolutely didn't want to go to sleep, and she stayed up until nearly midnight! She kept saying, "My Aunt Popo made dis for me! Yook, Mama!" It was really wonderful to see her take it all in. Today she kept wanting to hang out on her bed. Once when she was in there I heard a conversation she was having with herself. She was saying, "Who made dese pitchers? (meaning the art on the walls) Aunt Popo! Who she make dem for? ME! Who made dese dwapes? Mama! Who she make dem for? ME! Then she giggled and rolled around on her bed. Color me crazy, but I really think she's nuts over her new room!

Now, without further ado, I present to you Petunia's Parisian Bedroom!

The comforter has several Parisian scenes all over it. Lisa painted my favorite one over the bed.

The pink poodle and the lamp post are also from scenes on the comforter.

A close-up of the bistro scene. And isn't the pink motorbike pillow just too much?!

When I asked Lisa to sign her work, she wrote 'We'll always have Paris. Love, Aunt Popo.'

This is one of the times when Petunia was just hanging out on her new bed. Check out the way she has her foot resting on her knee. That's just too funny to me.

Isn't She A Little Young For This?

I've got lots to write about... hopefully tomorrow... but I had to post these pics. Jen-Jen was kind enough to have Petunia over to her house all day, so work on Petunia's room could commence. (It's looking really, really good, but no photos until it's all finished.)

Petunia and Evan love being together, but I'm thinking she's just a little on the young side for such behavior! Oh, my spicy girl!